01 / EXPEDIENCYMove the conversation forward.
A private session can be arranged around availability and the participants’ readiness, without waiting for a contested hearing. Start with one practical issue or agree on a sequence for wider discussions.
Tell us your deadlines. Intake, disclosure and any legal advice still need time, and existing court deadlines remain in place.
02 / PRIVACYSpace for sensitive discussions.
Mediation sessions are not open to the public. Agree in advance on participants, private meetings, information sharing and record handling.
The written agreement explains confidentiality and its limits. Safety or legal duties, agreed reporting and later enforcement or court filings may affect what can remain confidential. A promise of complete secrecy would be misleading.
03 / CONTROLKeep a voice in the outcome.
In facilitative mediation, the mediator guides the discussion but does not impose a settlement or provide legal advice. You can explore options, ask questions, obtain independent advice and decide whether a proposal is acceptable.
Some families resolve one issue while leaving others for further advice or another process.
04 / FLEXIBILITYFit the process to the people.
Discuss remote participation, shorter sessions, breaks, separate meetings and accessibility needs at intake. One or both parties may have their own lawyer participate or advise between sessions, with roles agreed at intake.
Suitable arrangements depend on safety, each person’s ability to participate and the nature of the issues.
05 / COST CLARITYKnow what you are agreeing to.
A written fee proposal identifies preparation, session time, the written work included, applicable taxes, extra-time arrangements and cancellation terms.
Mediation may reduce the time and expense of litigation, but there are no guaranteed savings. You may still need legal, financial or valuation advice.
06 / YOUR FAMILYWork with everyday realities.
Consider school, work, travel, family traditions and children’s changing needs. A structured conversation can turn broad positions into specific options and responsibilities.
The aim is a workable arrangement that participants understand, rather than simply getting through a meeting.